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MUSCLE FASCIAL RELEASE
"Pain is the emotion that pulls most of our energy. We try to control it, burry it, numb it and we end up storing it inside our cells and pass it on to our children. Cell history is a reality for me. Pain is a messenger.
Having studied and spent half of my life in conversational psychology, and ending up sick, I stumbled on the body armour theory of Reich, and Bowen.
My life changed. There is release from trauma.
Whether it is psychological or physiological ,pain leaves when it is experienced. Pain leaves when we allow the body to take over and do what it does best. Pain leaves when the mind is put away and we allow the thoughts that block us to dissolve.
These sessions assist the body to physically readjust its core, its center of gravity, on a physiological level, and help erase cellular memory.
It can not be explained, it has to be experienced.
My journey and vision, my mission.
Hello, I am Nicole.
I was raised by a holistic naturopath with over 22 certifications and diplomas in various fields such a reflexology, iris analyse, homeopathy, nutrition, acupuncture and more
My father, a musician, was relocating the family every two years which opened my mind to different cultures, places, people. My life was music, art and holistic therapies that my mother would try on me and herself. I lived in 5 countries before the age of 15. The changes, the constant effort to fit it, to understand cultural and language barriers, the fact that my mother at the time was going through menopause, created a very lonely and toxic enviroment and this is the first time I got ill. I put on weight, we found out I had a runaway disk. I was told I could lose my legs and that I could not carry a child to term without laying in bed the whole pregnancy.
I know now that a lot had to do with unexpressed emotions, and wrongly expressed emotions that are reflected in our bodies. Each person is born with a different genetic making in their bodies and their reactions to their surroundings, food and lifestyle has different impacts.
Why are some people lactose intolerant and why some people get side effects from drugs when other do not?
Because we are each and every one, unique in our own way and the way we eat, think, walk, is affecting the thoughts, the emotions we have, creating a a blue print for future ailments once we peaked and start aging.
This is why there is a diversity of sicknesses, and ailments.
But lets get the emotional part out of the way first.
People everywhere, have 4 things in common, needs of security, love, understanding/validation and expression.
We all need to feel we matter, we all need to express love and feel loved, we all need to feel less alone and that we are doing well. Its what help us grow and find purpose.
Its what allows creation.
But as we grow up, sometimes these needs are blocked and we start feeling unwell. Especially love and emotions that are bottled up, are extremely damaging. After all we react to our surroundings and everything we know about ourselves is in relation to others. And sometimes we lose the point, we are ravaged by guilt, or doubt and fear or we keep everything in. On an energy level we stop getting, renewing, exchanging or using energy outwards. We find other ways : we go to the gym, we go online, we find substitutes. But we forget to tap to the source, we live in our heads and disconnect with our bodies. We also lose big chunks of who we are, mostly due to aging, and sometimes the loss of identity can be bruta,l especially if not done gradually.
2011 -12 was the most stressful year of my life and after a continuous battle on a personal front that lasted a few years, I did not know how to unwind, relax, and let go anymore. I felt trapped, lost and deeply unhappy. I had headaches that lasted from 3 days and nights to 6, sometimes covering a whole month and nothing worked.
I went from 60 kgs to 90, in 3 years, after I came to Denmark as a new bride. The kilos were accompanied with pain in my body, sadness. I lost my sense of joy, I lost myself, I was miserable. I went from doctor to doctor, My face was swelling, I had rashes, I was depressed, my cycle stopped. I was told I was menopausal, that I had Lymes disease, that I had no metabolism left... I could not work as a life coach, I could not work as a cosmetolog, looking like that, I could not work as a therapist, I had no energy... my body was betraying me. Or so I thought. I worked from home, at a desk, focusing on business, marketing, voice overs, adding more stress to my fragile state. I tried to go to school thinking it would be a nice change. It was not. I could see myself desintegrating in front of my eyes, and for a while, my mind was also betraying me. Loss of memory, I was emotional, nervous. A mess. And no matter what I knew, no matter how I had helped others in the past and could see the signs, I was unable to save myself. I was slowly sinking and drowning.
I had no Lymes, I was not menopausal.
I was deeply unhappy and had shut down. My body was reflecting my state of being. I started drinking coffee, which did not help, and the lack of sun affected my mediteraneenan roots.
I was unbalanced and my body produced so many toxins that I literrally poisoned myself. In an effort to keep everything away from vital organs, my body "stuffed" all the toxins in my skin, my fascia. Of course this is something that was brewing for sometime and it just exploded, when my body gave up, unable to communicate to me that my life had taken a wrong turn. Our minds chose to see what will enhance our beliefs. This is a pattern that is very powerful, and by moving to another country I had shut down most of my beliefs about others, unfiltering and accepting bad behaviors, in case it was a 'cultural thing", but I had kept the beliefs that I deserved to be mistreated, the fears of abandonment, the little voice telling me that I am unlovable and many deep issues that imploded, eventually.
But I was set free.
Our minds are so good at imagining, creating, analyzing. Be in control. And they will fight change. Change is unknown and dangerous and generates fear. This is our mind's work. it is trying to protect us. It will create ideas, denial and detachment from the body. But body and mind are not detached. We create that illusion.
We treat our bodies hard. We work them in ways that pushes them.To "feel the burn", and be tight, strong, go beyond our limits, ignore the pain. We have no tenderness. We moisturize our body in order to avoid dryness, not for the pleasure of the touch. We shave hair, we try to fix it and shape it all the time, as if it is this entity that betrays us and we have to keep in control. Maybe because our bodies are exposed to the world and we are judged by them. But our minds are hidden- or so we think- and many times have too much power over everything. So we live in our mind and forget that we are our bodies. This is living in the sympathetic nervous system for those who know what it means.
Our bodies are not just muscles bones and skin, but a materialisation of our minds and emotions. Our bodies are made of fascia, a very sensitive, communicative "organ" that is reacting to everything. Especially stress. When stressed fascia compresses our capillaries in order to avoid bleeding, and cuts the communication with the brain so if we are injured we sont feel it. And the superficial fascia under the skin can be broken back to its norma lstate with massage, and the second layer can be streched with exercise, but the one inside, affecting internal organs and muscles, is very hard to reach. When fascia contracts it creates pain sometimes, it also creates tilting ( if its in the pelvis for example) In release, fascia lets go of toxins, brings in water, nutrients and lets go also of stored energy, memory cell. Yes, like batteries we keep energy, produce energy and every event big or small creates something in you, like when you touch the antenna of a snail. Your body constantly communicates with you, telling you for example, that YOU dont agree with what you are doing or how you are handling a situation.
On a physical level, a pain in your shoulder could be your liver screaming at you that there is inflammation or a deficiency. Your thin hair? Liver. Your rashes? lungs or liver. The ear pain? Probably overworked kidneys. Your shoulder blade pain? Could be from your buttock fascia that was contracted some months ago when you fell doing ski... or from your gallblader.
A body is not segments but a whole that communicates.
I do not diagnose, I am not a doctor and I dont wish to be one.
I m seing the whole picture, decide what moves to do on your body, suggest new habits that may bring a better life quality- which you may chose to follow or not, and that could eradicate some chronic pains, and make life easier, enjoyable again.
I want to give what I received. A better quality of life, a better sence of self, a feel good emotion that can last.
Let's try something. Take a moment. As you read this, are your shoulders up? Do you sit well? Breathe. Take inventory of your whole body. Is is saying something to you? Is a foot cold? Do you feel a small pinch on the back of the neck? Is your ear itchy?
Now take a deep breath, exhale, strech and go back in your mind because there is more to read.
When relaxed and remembering a lover, our child being born, a beach where we laid in the sun while a breeze was caressing our face, our body sends a different response and pulse to our nerves. Same thing happens when we remember a confrontation, a humiliation. Our bodies respond immediately to their surroundings or the idea of their surroundings. We thrive with love, acceptance, affection. We glow when we are in love and we look younger. Full of energy.
We shrivel and whither when we cant express ourselves, when we feel irrelevant, bypassed, guilty, shameful, judged. It consummes us, and the energy to numb these feelings- or any feelings, be it sadness or anger- is depleting our resources and our health. Yet we do that in a nanosecond, that is how good we
have become at burring things inside. In our own flesh.
The power of touch is instinctively known in the mammal kingdom, our pets seek contact every day, lions play with eachother, chimps hug, and we...we hire hairdressers, massage therapists and beauticians. Our society found ways to make touch acceptable and we renew our energy that is often blocked. We find ways to feel important, relevant, beautiful, but we also get a powerful source of energy, in the exchange.
I am now on my way to recovery, and it is a slow process. However I am grateful that I found out, what is going on. I am headache free ( from headaches every day to maybe once every two months), my rashes went to 20%, and I am finally feeling hopeful, and more self assured because now, I know.
And this is nothing new, we all know it, but we tend to forget the simplest of facts.
I had a reflexology degree but hardly used it in my youth, I was more concerned about expression: Singing, painting, dancing, writing. I worked as a make up artist, a life coach, a voice artist. I researched and studied, trying to find myself, find my identity and my voice. I taught and learned and pivoted from one career to the other, wanting to learn as much as I could, wantig to live as much as I could , longing for connection and communication. In my home, expression was forbidden, and it had a lot to do with my sex. This was before the #metoo movement and I was not allowed to talk about my assaults, harassments, abuse from close members of my family, and loved ones.
I studied psychology to deal with my heavy family heritage and I went into therapy to deal with my choices. I moved places, married, remarried, trying to find a place where I would fit. Be myself, be loved as I am. It took me a lot of slaps in the face, a lot of heardache, I built a big body armour around me, and tried a lot of things before finding peace. Acceptance. Love. From me to me. It was just as simple as that, but I needed to experience my head against the wall till the day would come that everything would click.
I worked as counselor and relationship coach in a country were women did not know that being discriminated is not their doing, and not a reason to be ashamed. I worked with people who went from objectification to humiliations,, to eradicate pain and the feeling of being inadequate, process the rejection, the guilt, the trauma. And yet, I could not really obtain what I knew and was offering to others but from an intellectual point of view. Something had to go deeper, shut the words, the noise, the logic, and just be. I certified in hypnosis and on some level, things were happening for my clients. Especially the cerebral ones that did not like to be touched. But for me it was not it.
Bowen gave me that. I cried at the simplest of touches and felt light, liberated, euphoric. There was no "why " I cried, "why " I am happy. I just was.
This has to be experienced.
Now the idea of trying to find this acceptance from the outside is a strange notion. I enjoy relationships, for the joy of giving. Because I have surplus. Not in a sacrifice, exchange kind of way, but a genuine giving, generous source.
Bowen, was the click that started it all, and I chose it over everything else I have learned, due to the fact that it is a technique that deals with the physical and the emotional without my imput. It is a technique to alieviates pain, that also deals with any other issue one may have.
By doing body work, any body work, we allow the traumatic memories stored in our cells to be free, the tightness of the fascia to let go, and the electric energy to flow freely again.
It is in my experience that the better shape you have, the less you will feel during a Bowen session. Your relationship with your body is harder, the depth of your fascia is smaller. Hard muscles are stressed muscles- they should feel like a cat's. Chances are you need a deep tissue session to "feel" it.
It doesn't matter. There are other techniques. Whether it is a massage for pleasure and relaxation or a chiropractor, kinesitherapist for muscle, joint pain...And we all aim at the same goal, some just need to take a different path.
I chose Bowen and I implemented some Chinese Medicine in my assessments because I am sensitive to people's pain, being someone who lived with it for so long.
To be able to lift a back pain of 30 years from the first session, or stop someones headaches after 15 years, is deeply satisfying and rewarding. But feeling it or not, anyone should have a Bowen session in their life, just to free the psoas and other tightness around organs. It is truly a life altering experience and worth a try.